By: Lisa Stuart
Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner consistently complains about you or about the things that you do? Perhaps he just makes subtle comments but you know he really means them? These careless acts play on your insecurities and you may have found that you were changing the things about yourself that he was complaining about or commenting on in an effort to avoid the criticism and comments. He might even have threatened to end your relationship if you didn’t change.
You may have convinced yourself because you love the person, it is a valid and good enough reason to want to change for him. The bottom line is that it is fear on some level that causes you to change for someone else and not love. Changes, no matter how big or small, are not appropriate if they are for someone else. Any time you change anything about yourself to please another, it will have negative consequences. The moment you change one thing, you may be asked to change another and another and another until there comes a point when nothing you do or say is good enough. You will find that a relationship where you are required to change in an effort to make it work will not survive long term.
Whatever you do from here on out, don’t change for anyone else but yourself! If you do, it will backfire at some point because you are, essentially, squashing the spirit of your true self. Eventually, those aspects of yourself that you thought you had changed will be doing whatever it takes to express themselves. The essence of your true nature cannot and will not be held down for long.
More than likely, the changes that you initially made from ‘love’ will manifest as anger and resentment towards your partner for whom you did the changing in the first place. If he doesn’t like who you are, it is not your problem, it is his. Remind yourself that we can choose our companions. Because you respect yourself, you can gently remind him that if those things bother him so much, you should consider the possibility of the relationship not working out. It means that you won’t change to fit someone else’s idea of a perfect partner. You are who you are and if he doesn’t like it, he doesn’t have to be with you. If he doesn’t love and accept you as you are, don’t be afraid to tell him “to take a hike.”
Above all else, be true to yourself, body, mind and soul. You will find that honoring and respecting yourself will more quickly result in attracting and experiencing a healthy, loving and fulfilling relationship.
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Lisa Stuart is dedicated to showing you how to attract the love of your life. Discover the secrets to attracting and experiencing a relationship with the love of your life! Sign up for Lisa’s Attracting Love Newsletter ($100 Value) just by visiting her website at www.HowToAttractLove.com.
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