Comments on: “Living Apart Together” or LAT Relationship http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/ Thu, 02 Feb 2012 15:19:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Have you heard..of LAT relationships? http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-2802 Have you heard..of LAT relationships? Mon, 12 Sep 2011 19:02:21 +0000 http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/#comment-2802 [...] homes. I heard about it on NPR recently, and then again from another news source then again on this blog after a quick Google search. What is this new trend of relationships? How is this [...] [...] homes. I heard about it on NPR recently, and then again from another news source then again on this blog after a quick Google search. What is this new trend of relationships? How is this [...]

]]> By: rita morgan http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-891 rita morgan Mon, 08 Nov 2010 23:27:40 +0000 http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/#comment-891 Thank you for the great post! Rita Thank you for the great post!
Rita

]]> By: Wilmet http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-890 Wilmet Mon, 08 Nov 2010 17:02:30 +0000 http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/#comment-890 I've just stumbled across this site-very interesting. I've been in a LAT relationship for the last five years. We both have children -I have four, all in their twenties and independent, and he has three, one of whom is nineteen and emotionally as well as financially dependent on his father. The pluses are that our differing parenting styles are not a factor in our relationship: I've always brought my children up to be gregarious, independent, self-sufficient, where he is much more indulgent. This would be hard to put up with if I were co-parenting, even part-time, but it isn't an issue because it's "my house, my rules". He is also a collector: books, cds, posters, ceramics-you name it. I'm less interested in having things. I also have my heating up way too high for him: he likes a spartan existence, I like warmth! We see each other nearly every weekend and two or three nights a week, have wonderful holidays together, go to the theatre, opera and ballet, mooch around antique shops at the weekend- our time together is special. I’ve just stumbled across this site-very interesting.
I’ve been in a LAT relationship for the last five years. We both have children -I have four, all in their twenties and independent, and he has three, one of whom is nineteen and emotionally as well as financially dependent on his father.
The pluses are that our differing parenting styles are not a factor in our relationship: I’ve always brought my children up to be gregarious, independent, self-sufficient, where he is much more indulgent. This would be hard to put up with if I were co-parenting, even part-time, but it isn’t an issue because it’s “my house, my rules”. He is also a collector: books, cds, posters, ceramics-you name it. I’m less interested in having things. I also have my heating up way too high for him: he likes a spartan existence, I like warmth! We see each other nearly every weekend and two or three nights a week, have wonderful holidays together, go to the theatre, opera and ballet, mooch around antique shops at the weekend- our time together is special.

]]> By: Dawn http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-605 Dawn Mon, 17 May 2010 21:31:14 +0000 http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/#comment-605 I am a twice divorced woman of 40. I have two younger children still at home and my S.O. has one child still at home who is about to graduate and will soon be child free. We live two and a half hours away from eachother and while sometimes the distance is hard the realtionship works wonderfully. My children dont need a 'DAD', they have one. He is done raising children and i have 11 years to go be fore my last leaves the nest. I dont how long this will last but i am completely commited to him and he to me. We are just a diffent places in our life. We take turns in taking the trip to eachother. The chiidren are welcome at either house and all seem to be happy that finally we are happy as well. There are thoes tearfull calls late at night (me) missing him and then in the light of day knowing this works very nicely. i have freedom to make my own life desisions and my assets are protected as are his. I love him deeply and we both know that at a differnt time in our lives we would have married right away...we just didnt find eachother till later in life. We both went through difficult marriages. We both feel we want to be with the other for now or forever but the peice of paper wont keep us together. It has worked for us for 3 years now...it can work! I am a twice divorced woman of 40. I have two younger children still at home and my S.O. has one child still at home who is about to graduate and will soon be child free. We live two and a half hours away from eachother and while sometimes the distance is hard the realtionship works wonderfully. My children dont need a ‘DAD’, they have one. He is done raising children and i have 11 years to go be fore my last leaves the nest. I dont how long this will last but i am completely commited to him and he to me. We are just a diffent places in our life. We take turns in taking the trip to eachother. The chiidren are welcome at either house and all seem to be happy that finally we are happy as well. There are thoes tearfull calls late at night (me) missing him and then in the light of day knowing this works very nicely. i have freedom to make my own life desisions and my assets are protected as are his. I love him deeply and we both know that at a differnt time in our lives we would have married right away…we just didnt find eachother till later in life. We both went through difficult marriages. We both feel we want to be with the other for now or forever but the peice of paper wont keep us together. It has worked for us for 3 years now…it can work!

]]> By: rita morgan http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-331 rita morgan Sun, 24 Jan 2010 19:00:21 +0000 http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/#comment-331 Yikes... that's a lot of family to blend. You obviously need to make a change to keep yourself sane. Maybe seek some advice from an expert. You could risk breaking up the relationship. Are you prepared for that? Yikes… that’s a lot of family to blend.
You obviously need to make a change to keep yourself sane. Maybe seek some advice from an expert. You could risk breaking up the relationship. Are you prepared for that?

]]> By: gillian moon http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-329 gillian moon Sun, 24 Jan 2010 10:57:56 +0000 http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/#comment-329 i in 7yr rel wit 2 kids 2 partner, i hve 2 older daughters (1 living with us) d other flatting, he has 3 otha chn 13yr daughter & 18 yr son to one mum and 22 yr old to another. The blended family has become 2 much for me... i just want my space wit my daughters ... he makin it diff ... i think i shd jst go n do it n explain LAT i in 7yr rel wit 2 kids 2 partner, i hve 2 older daughters (1 living with us) d other flatting, he has 3 otha chn 13yr daughter & 18 yr son to one mum and 22 yr old to another. The blended family has become 2 much for me… i just want my space wit my daughters … he makin it diff … i think i shd jst go n do it n explain LAT

]]> By: Alex http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-242 Alex Sat, 25 Jul 2009 05:36:47 +0000 http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/#comment-242 Case 1 A man....One week stays with one girl, next week stays with other girl, next week stays with 3rd girl. No one stays in his house, he stays at girls' house This relationship called "LAT Relationship" ? If not then called ? Case 2 A man...Ask his gf stays with him, she has her belongsing at his room. She stays for weekend. Working days, he asked other girls for sex when gf is not here. He is not allow any girls stays his place For his gf can called "LAT Relationship" or not? For other girls can called "LAT Relationship" ? If not then called ? Case 1
A man….One week stays with one girl, next week stays with other girl, next week stays with 3rd girl. No one stays in his house, he stays at girls’ house

This relationship called “LAT Relationship” ?
If not then called ?

Case 2
A man…Ask his gf stays with him, she has her belongsing at his room. She stays for weekend. Working days, he asked other girls for sex when gf is not here. He is not allow any girls stays his place

For his gf can called “LAT Relationship” or not?
For other girls can called “LAT Relationship” ?
If not then called ?

]]> By: ida brown http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-195 ida brown Thu, 16 Apr 2009 16:51:40 +0000 http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/#comment-195 the problem arises when he doesnt want to visit my place and wants us to only visit his He has 3 children from previous relationship living in the same town sharing custody. I have 4 children living with me form previous relationship. we have a baby together. he wont come over to my house with his kids -he sometimes comes over alone to see baby when kids are all in school- we have to (the 4 kids, baby and me) travel 45 min to visit with them (he and his 3) ANY IDEAS WHY?? the problem arises when he doesnt want to visit my place and wants us to only visit his He has 3 children from previous relationship living in the same town sharing custody. I have 4 children living with me form previous relationship. we have a baby together. he wont come over to my house with his kids -he sometimes comes over alone to see baby when kids are all in school- we have to (the 4 kids, baby and me) travel 45 min to visit with them (he and his 3) ANY IDEAS WHY??

]]> By: rita morgan http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-151 rita morgan Wed, 11 Feb 2009 23:40:55 +0000 http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/#comment-151 Many of us who are divorced and have grown up children are enjoying the freedom and are reluctant to marry again. Many of us who are divorced and have grown up children are enjoying the freedom and are reluctant to marry again.

]]> By: Vita M. king http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-149 Vita M. king Wed, 04 Feb 2009 17:48:34 +0000 http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/living-apart-together%e2%80%9d-or-lat-relationship/#comment-149 this is very good,and it is the what they call the today.I am a 46 year old divc. woman,for 7 years now,and i have been in relationships with men that had been marryed.We both stood in the same place,yes it is nice living together no kids the been there and the done that.It really is a wonderful place to be at this time in my life,its all about you and your mate.Our kids are 24 and ! Happy Vita M. King no grand kids Happy ! this is very good,and it is the what they call the today.I am a 46 year old divc. woman,for 7 years now,and i have been in relationships with men that had been marryed.We both stood in the same place,yes it is nice living together no kids the been there and the done that.It really is a wonderful place to be at this time in my life,its all about you and your mate.Our kids are 24 and ! Happy Vita M. King no grand kids Happy !

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