February 17, 2013 – 3:58 pm
If you build a circle of friends who will share your joys as well as your sorrows, the ending of a relationship will pass much faster and easier.
By: Stan Popovich
It can be difficult to manage stress and depression when facing the end of a relationship. You not only feel sad but anxious, and it seems that your whole life has lost meaning.
Here is a list of ideas that might help you during that difficult time.
Give yourself time to heal. In the beginning you will feel sad and lonely. While you’re experiencing these feelings it’s hard to believe that your outlook will improve with time. But, the more time passes, the better you will feel.
During this time you might feel alone. To meet people and make new friends, you could do some volunteer work. Getting involved by helping others will take your mind off your own thoughts and you might assist people who are worse off than you. Visit your local church and learn what volunteer activities are available in the community.
Instead of staying home and moping, develop new interests and pursue them with vigor. If you’ve always wanted to travel but have never had the time, now is your opportunity. Take up skiing, skating, tennis or surfing. You’ll meet people with similar interests and get a healthy dose of exercise. If you’re not the outdoor type, you could find a new indoor hobby. Join a book club, learn to play bridge or take classes at your local university.
If you like animals, volunteer at your local animal shelter. Animals can be a great source of companionship and they will uplift your spirits. Adopting a pet is a serious responsibility and should not be done just to prevent loneliness. However, helping out at a shelter and caring for animals will provide you the affection that you are now missing.
Try to manage your negative thinking. Depression can magnify even small problems and you exaggerate worries by dwelling on them. Remind yourself that things will get better and work on remaining positive.
The ending of a relationship causes a void in your life. Even if it wasn’t the best, you crave for the good times and your whole body aches to turn the clock back. This is when you need to remind yourself that you will meet other people and make new friends. The trick is not to sit at home and feel depressed. Go out and be around people. You’ll never make new friends sitting alone on your couch.
If after some time, you continue to experience depression, you might want to meet with a counselor. An experienced professional can give you additional insights on how to get over a relationship. It would also be a good way to learn more about yourself.
Remember that just because your relationship has ended, it does not mean that you will be alone for the rest of your life. People will come and go in your life and relationships will develop and end. If you build a circle of friends who will share your joys as well as your sorrows, the ending of a relationship will pass much easier.
About the Author:
Stan Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods”.
For additional information go to Managing Fear.