January 14, 2008 – 12:23 pm
They met at a local gym where each worked out several days a week. Susan had recently moved into the neighborhood and their mutual interest in fitness quickly sparked a relationship.
By: Natasha Morgan
I knew that Jeff was crazy about his girlfriend Susan. He spent every waking moment with her to the exclusion of his long time college friends.
The two met at a local gym where each worked out several days a week. Susan had recently moved into the neighborhood and their mutual interest in fitness quickly sparked a relationship. As weeks flew by they found more common interests and what seemed like a blink of an eye, Jeff all but disappeared from our family life.
Although his absence was noticeable, life continued normally in our household. The day finally arrived, as I should have known it would, that Jeff announced his engagement to Susan. Why did I feel as if I had been kicked in the stomach?
Don’t get me wrong; I like Susan. She has all the qualities that I would want in a daughter-in-law. It’s just that it was such a shock!
I tried to be rational and tell myself that they make a wonderful couple and it’s time someone else shared his life. However, the truth was that I was not ready to let him go.
The special bond that develops between mother and son does not weaken with age. No matter how many girlfriends he had in the past, I had always been number one in his heart.
I couldn’t talk about it to anyone. It would sound ridiculously selfish. Of course, I knew it was selfish but I couldn’t help the way I felt. Memories of the little boy in his Superman pajamas who was tucked under my arm while I read him a bed-time story plagued me. I had to stop this reminiscing and move on.
Fortunately, as the days wore on, thoughts of separation from my son became less painful. I asked Jeff to invite Susan home more often and I worked on getting better acquainted with our soon-to-be daughter-in-law. Seeing how happy Jeff was when they were together, helped me to understand that my role in his life had changed.
Now two years after the wedding, I look back on that memorable day and reflect on the difficulty of separation. A father trying to look brave at the wedding of his daughter and parents saying good-bye to a son or daughter moving miles away from home are in no less pain.
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