http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/the-rollercoaster/ Thu, 02 Feb 2012 15:19:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/the-rollercoaster/comment-page-1/#comment-205 rita morgan Sun, 31 May 2009 20:42:49 +0000 http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/the-rollercoaster/#comment-205 What a loving comment on a teenager! Jeanne is a caring understanding mother. Bravo... she certainly has my support. What a loving comment on a teenager! Jeanne is a caring understanding mother. Bravo… she certainly has my support.

]]> http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/the-rollercoaster/comment-page-1/#comment-203 Jeanne Fri, 29 May 2009 22:00:36 +0000 http://www.notjustthekitchen.com/family-relationships/the-rollercoaster/#comment-203 WOW Elizabeth! Great article and I am with you. My son is 18 now and since he is autistic he'll be living at home for quite a while - and I am great with that! Even though he is autistic he still has the teen mood swings, frustrations and challenges. He of course does not go to parties like other kids - but he is very social and takes classes, goes to friends houses, gets invited places and we have our days when loses privilages because he didn't get his chores done or he raised his voice to me. He gets angry, slams doors, won't talk to me, does the "geeze Mom" thing etc. Do I feel like "loosing it" once in a while? Sure...most parents do - he is really a handfull sometimes. But I have always figured my job was and is to help him grow up and become a wonderful man - and if that means he gets mad at me, then ok...if that means he slams a door or tells Grandma "I'm mad at Mom because she won't let me go to ..." then ok. If it means I am unpopular for a day or so...thats ok too. And whats more I tell him so!! He'll say "I'm mad at you Mom because you won't let me buy some cards (or whatever the problem is)". And I'll say "It's ok to be mad at me - but you are not allowed to yell at me and also yesterday you got to buy some cards, so today the answer is still no - sorry but no". I know he hears me and he understands why I say what I say because we always talk about it later. We talk about how sometimes teenagers simply feel really mad all of a sudden, or frustrated and they don't really know why. We talk about that being a teen is not easy sometimes, but sometimes neither is being a Mom. We always talk thinghs out, which I love. He's awesome and I wouldn't have it any other way either. When you talked about being a teens "wall" I agree. I want my son to do the testing on me....I am the one that loves and understands him the best and can help him learn the right way to handle life things before he lives on his own one day. So, even though some days are more challenging than others - I love being a Mom and my son is the best! WOW Elizabeth! Great article and I am with you. My son is 18 now and since he is autistic he’ll be living at home for quite a while – and I am great with that! Even though he is autistic he still has the teen mood swings, frustrations and challenges. He of course does not go to parties like other kids – but he is very social and takes classes, goes to friends houses, gets invited places and we have our days when loses privilages because he didn’t get his chores done or he raised his voice to me. He gets angry, slams doors, won’t talk to me, does the “geeze Mom” thing etc. Do I feel like “loosing it” once in a while? Sure…most parents do – he is really a handfull sometimes. But I have always figured my job was and is to help him grow up and become a wonderful man – and if that means he gets mad at me, then ok…if that means he slams a door or tells Grandma “I’m mad at Mom because she won’t let me go to …” then ok. If it means I am unpopular for a day or so…thats ok too. And whats more I tell him so!! He’ll say “I’m mad at you Mom because you won’t let me buy some cards (or whatever the problem is)”. And I’ll say “It’s ok to be mad at me – but you are not allowed to yell at me and also yesterday you got to buy some cards, so today the answer is still no – sorry but no”. I know he hears me and he understands why I say what I say because we always talk about it later. We talk about how sometimes teenagers simply feel really mad all of a sudden, or frustrated and they don’t really know why. We talk about that being a teen is not easy sometimes, but sometimes neither is being a Mom. We always talk thinghs out, which I love. He’s awesome and I wouldn’t have it any other way either. When you talked about being a teens “wall” I agree. I want my son to do the testing on me….I am the one that loves and understands him the best and can help him learn the right way to handle life things before he lives on his own one day. So, even though some days are more challenging than others – I love being a Mom and my son is the best!

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