How Stepmothers Can Find a Good Therapist

Stepmothers need to find out some basic information to make sure she and a therapist share similar philosophies and goals.

By: Rachelle Katz, Ed.D., LMFT

At least three times a week, stepmothers email me requesting a recommendation for good therapist where they live. Usually, I don’t know anyone in their area but I give them a list of questions to ask therapists before they finally select one with whom to work. Finding a good therapist requires some detective work. You need to find out some basic information to make sure you and a therapist share similar philosophies and goals. This …

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Who You Callin’ Blended?

What stepfamilies themselves, as well as the best family therapists, have known for years, is that the standard of blending is just plain wrong.

By: Wednesday Martin, Ph.D.

The media is in love with the term “blended family.” From USA Today to Star magazine to the New York Times, from 20/20 to Oprah, there’s no escaping the articles about repartnering with children that don’t just label such families “blended,” but further suggest that “blending = success.” That is, not blended = failed stepfamily.

And the rest of the world follows suit with their practices and expectations. There are web sites …

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