A change in housing, work, travel, shopping, etc., make people stop and think about how deeply “money” will have on their life after divorce, but the change that children will need to go through if a divorce occurs can be even more difficult.
By: Karl Augustine
More often than not people decide to get a divorce before they really think about the effects of divorce. People usually decide to get a divorce based on emotion rather than logic which can hinder their long term happiness. Still, there are those that make their decision about getting a divorce by taking into account the effects that divorce can have on everyone involved.
Some effects of divorce can be positive depending on your situation even though ‘divorce’ is usually seen in a negative light. The effects of divorce are far too many to list here so let’s concentrate on effects of divorce that seem most apparent and that address making a decision about divorce.
Obviously one of the most common effects of divorce is how the divorce will change the money flow for the people involved in the divorce. A change in cash flow affects the freedom we have and it can change the lifestyle we have. A change in housing, work, travel, shopping, etc., make people stop and think about how deeply “money” will have on their life after divorce. While a “change in money flow” is a consideration and a true hard effect of divorce, there are other effects that might carry greater weight in the decision making process.
An effect of divorce that some people need to consider is the change that children will need to go through if a divorce occurs. Children can be strong during this time, but it is up to the parents to make sure the transition is as painless as possible. Some people actually stay in unhappy marriages solely because there are children involved. The change children go through as an effect of divorce is complex. If you are curious as to how to ensure this transition is as painless as possible for your children, educate yourself and possibly seek professional advice.
‘“Fear”, as an effect of divorce?’
Yes, fear is a real live effect that divorce can have on some people. Fear of lossâ€¦fear of the unknownâ€¦fear of lack of self confidenceâ€¦fear of changeâ€¦fear of a depreciation in emotional healthâ€¦etc. The list goes on and on. Combating fear is a difficult thing to do but in conquering fear you will be one step further to your goal of emotional health.
Not all seemingly negative things or events in life are truly 100% negative. If you’ve been divorced, are currently going through a divorce, or are deciding about getting a divorce, you have a rare opportunity to use the experience to grow emotionally and increase your inner-strength.
The effects of divorce and how you label them (positively or negatively) will be determined by how you act while going through the divorce and what your focus is after the divorce is over. You should want to look back and identify the positive effects of divorce as they pertain to your own situation. Having “positive self reflection” when the dust settles is a goal that, if attained, will make you feel good about yourself. When you’re looking back on the experience of divorce or the decision process of divorce, you want to be able to answer the following question positively. “Did I grow emotionally and personally during this tumultuous time?” The effects of divorce are far reaching…look inward and plan accordingly.
About The Author:
Karl Augustine Author, “A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not To Get A Divorce”. *A resource recommended by marriage counselors to their clients.