If things don’t go well in your relationship after you move, will you return to your old home, or will you stay in the new area? Without the support of your family and friends it will be a very difficult time.
By: Maria Madeira
Sooner or later, you and your beloved will have to take the decision of who should move, because it is very hard to live apart.
Moving will change your life drastically. You should know what you and your beloved really want from life. You need to communicate, communicate and communicate until you arrive at a very clear understanding about your expectations. It is your future.
Here are some questions to help you make the decision:
Will you have to “give up” your domestic animals? Does your beloved enjoy having cats, dogs, birds, etc. at home?
Do either of you have children? How well will they accept living together, now as a new family? Will the children adjust to living far away from their grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins?
Are there good schools for them in the new place? Will they like the new area?
How about their friends; will they accept being apart from them?
Will they be able to keep their current activities such as sports and music in their new place?
Are you moving far away from your family? If you are very close to your family, it will be difficult not to be with them as often. Perhaps, your parents are elderly and need your assistance. You have the right to build your life, your happiness, your love, but are reluctant to leave your parents alone when they most need your help.
If you are divorced and your ex lives near you, will he accept your new mate? After all, he comes from “nowhere”, and almost from one day to another, he is living with you. Of course, you can’t let your ex be the main reason for your decision, but if he doesn’t accept that you have a new mate, you’ll need to be prepared to deal with that.
Can you live in the new area, possibly, for the rest of your life? Do you like the weather, the culture? If you are an urban lover and are planning to move to a rural area, will you miss the urban life? If you can adapt very easily to new environments, you will not have a problem. However, if you are not adaptable, and decide to move, you will need all the help, understanding and support from your beloved for the more “difficult” phases. Be sure to discuss this fully before you make your decision.
How familiar are you with the new area? Have you been there only for short periods in a romantic setting? Learn more about your new environment before taking the final step. Consider how it would feel to live there permanently.
Finally, if things don’t go well between you, and you decide to end the relationship, after you move, will you return to your old home, or will you stay in the new area? Without the support of your family and friends it will be a very difficult time.
Making a move is a tough decision that will change your life forever.
My most important advice to you is to listen to your heart. True love is so precious and can overcome any difficulty.
Don’t measure the distance; measure the love.
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